SexTech That’ll Spice Up The Bedroom This Valentine’s Day

Tomorrow is the day of love, famously Valentine’s Day. Lovers around the world are all celebrating love through romantic gestures and gifts, but what about in the bedroom?

Sextech, short for sex technology, as the name explains, are all the gadgets and digital tools used to enhance the experience for matters in the bedroom. This could be anything from apps, toys, even communities found online. These all take advantage of the innovation technology gives us and makes experiences more pleasurable.

How Much Is The SexTech Industry Worth?

Not many recent figures have been recorded as far as the 2025/2026 year goes, but Future Market Insights records the industry being worth $819.1 million with a CAGR of 19.2% from 2025 to 2035.

Some of the biggest drivers in the market goes to VR adult content, followed by Bluetooth enabled sex toys and then adult video scripting. This is according to FMI’s numbers.

They said, “The VR porn product segment is projected to represent 38.60% of total revenue by 2025 within the product category, making it the leading segment. Growth is being driven by immersive content experiences, increasing consumer interest in virtual engagement, and rapid adoption of VR devices across global markets.”

How Can SexTech Be Used To Spice Up The Bedroom This Valentine’s Day?

In case you’re wondering which tech we have been looking at for you and your partner to spice up the bedroom, we’ve got quite a few ideas…

1. Remote Controlled Toys And Gadgets

Toys such as vibrators are now able to connect to smartphones via Bluetooth. The smartphone can then be used to control the experience for your partner. This makes for a very exciting and different form of foreplay.

There are different kinds of vibrators to accommodate different stimuli. There are some that can be inserted, such as the egg, or others that sit on the outside, such as a clitoral vibrator. Either way, there are countless options to cater to you and your partner’s needs.

A slightly different one from vibrators is the sleeve that typically sits on the shaft and vibrates. Using the same technology as the standard vibrators, this makes for a great tool in the bedroom as well.

If you’re in a long distance relationship, some of these remote controlled toys work without Bluetooth. You’re able to keep it spicy even when far away from your lover.

2. Podcasts That Get You Talking Again

If you and your partner already use Spotify or Apple Podcasts on the way to work, this might be the easiest entry point into sex tech. No gadgets. No awkward checkout screens. Just headphones and curiosity.

In one episode, Dr. Brandon, a qualified psychologist and sex therapist, talks about integrating sex tech into relationships and keeping emotional connection intact. She covers traditional sex toys, porn, VR, chatbots and live sex shows. Her point is practical. Use the tools, but do not lose each other. At 08:33 in the episode, she talks about mixing tech with traditional lovemaking to keep emotional intimacy alive.

This kind of content works well for couples who feel more comfortable listening to a doctor explain things rather than guessing. It creates a shared language. Ava Rey wrote on Medium that her first step back to intimacy with her partner was listening to a podcast in the dark. The topic was reclaiming touch in long term relationships. It did not end in fireworks. It ended in honesty.

Podcasts are low pressure. You can pause and ask, “Do you miss how things used to feel?” That question alone can change the tone of a relationship. Digital streaming platforms can quietly open doors that have been closed for years.
 

3. Virtual Sex Therapy From Your Couch

Virtual sex therapy has become more common as people grow used to Zoom meetings and online support. If you can talk to a manager through a screen, you can talk to a therapist too.

Its so much easier for people to get needs met through convenience. We order fast food. We use ChatGPT. We text instead of call. Therapy has followed in that way. The screen can feel less intimidating than an office.

For couples who feel stuck or disconnected, a virtual session can lower the barrier to starting. You do not have to drive anywhere or sit in a waiting room. You log in, talk, and log out. That accessibility matters when jobs, family and health issues eat up time.

There is another side to this conversation. Research constantly shows that many people report more powerful orgasms when masturbating than with a partner, and that three of the 15 most popular websites in the USA are porn, according to Wright et al., 2023. Therapy can help couples unpack that reality without shame. The goal is not to compete with technology but to understand how it fits into a real relationship.

4. One Use Sex Toys For Peace of Mind

Reusable toys can be expensive. They also require cleaning and storage, which can put people off. For couples who worry about hygiene or do not want to spend £200 on something that may gather dust, one use toys offer a different option.

Dr. Brandon talks about traditional vibrators as tools to increase stimulation, but she emphasises staying connected to your partner. A lower cost, single use item can make experimentation feel less risky. If it works, great. If it does not, you have not invested a large sum.

Ava Rey described trying a wearable toy with app control. What surprised her was not the product itself but the laughter and eye contact that followed. The device became a reason to flirt again. That emotional afterglow was the real benefit.

For people anxious about reusing toys, disposable options remove that mental block. They create space for play without the pressure of long term ownership. The point is not the object. It is the permission to try.

5. Virtual Reality For Couples Who Want Something New

VR porn and immersive experiences are often framed as solo activities. Dr. Brandon addresses VR directly in her episode, explaining that it can make things more exciting, but partners need to stay attentive to each other.

Research from Psychology Today that adults experience VR porn as more arousing than traditional 2D porn, according to Elsey, 2019. That intensity is exactly why couples need to talk first. What are we comfortable with. What feels playful and what feels distancing. For adults, that knowledge should encourage thoughtful use.

Used well, VR can be a shared adventure instead of it being an escape. The tech is powerful. The relationship has to come first. If both people agree, laugh through the awkward bits and keep checking in, it can add excitement without replacing real touch.

Happy Valentine’s Day, and happy love making!